I hate the phrase "You're either with me, or you're against me."
Nothing, I repeat, nothing, is that black and white. Ever. There are always shades of grey. Maybe I'm better at seeing both sides of the coin than a lot of people, or maybe I just don't like to make decisions, or commitments, but I always see the grey.
The world is always full of grey. Black is ever colour, and white is the absence of any, but life is really just grey.