It used to be a simple thing when friendships shifted out of tune and people faded from your life. They used to just go away, and you didn't see them anymore. You had some great memories, but unless you ran into them on the street somewhere, or made some valiant gesture to try to keep them in your life, they were just gone.
With all the various forms of social media, if you've friended or tagged or snapped with that person, you still see their presence in the world. As a Facebook friend you have to watch as their life goes on without you. It's not really painful; it just makes you wonder how you could be forgotten.
The person continues doing and talking about things you used to have in common. And you see them doing that unless you take that big final step. You unfriend them. That in itself is a hard thing to do, be use it's not as if you have any hard feelings toward them, or had a fight, or a falling out, you just lost touch. You both stopped making the effort to keep each other. (And let's face it, with social media, it doesn't take a whole lot of effort anymore.) Maybe, you wonder, if you keep being connected on Facebook (or Twitter or Instagram) you might find a way back to that friendship.
Or maybe it will always just be this sad reminder of what you used to have.
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